Reading Between the Lines of Personal
Classified Ads
Reading through the personal ads can be a skill, an art
in its own. You may find that skimming through the personal
ads has become your latest habit, searching for the person
that meets your profile needs and desires but without success.
Have you been looking for love but in the wrong profiles,
or are you searching for more that is not written in the lines
of a personal ad? If you read more into a personal ad than
what is actually written in the profile and in the pages of
the personal classifieds, you may find yourself conversing
or dating a person that does not have the same personal dating
ideas as you or the same objective in a relationship which
puts you back at the beginning of the process again.
You already know that the listings in the personal section
are from people just like you, people who want to meet someone
special to fit into their life so starting with the personal
ads is a great way to meet someone. However, maybe you are
reading the profile of someone wanting to find just a friend,
or maybe the profiles you are reading is someone that is also
hinting towards a search for love in a relationship. You need
to be a distinctive reader.
The odds are in your favor when searching the personal ads
for in finding a companion or lover. You already know that
if the profiles you are reading are not seeking some type
of friendship or relationship, they would not have created
a profile for others to review. However, the steps in deciding
who you will make contact with can be one of the most difficult
in your search.
Your journey reading the personal classified section will
require the need to look within yourself discovering what
you type of relationship you are truly in search of. Are you
searching for a friend, for a lover, or are you searching
for a true lifetime commitment? Whatever category you place
yourself in, choose the replies and profiles that meet your
standards in your search for a relationship helping you narrow
your search, which will make the personals much easier to
sort through. If you would sit in front of your computer and
continue reading all of the personal ads presented, you may
find yourself overwhelmed with information and choices to
be made. Narrowing your criteria and the idea of what type
of relationship you are searching for creates the best results.
If you are searching for a friend or companion only through
the personal ads, start with profiles that state this specifically
in their profile, which you will find many. In discussing
profiles of those who are not looking for a serious relationship,
you may find the following phrases used: 'want to have a good
time',' not looking for a relationship' and 'not willing to
give my heart away', 'just want to spend some time with you'
or 'seeking another with a great listening ear'. There are
various words used expressing friendship, companionship and
those just looking to date. Use these expressions and words
to help you sort through the personal ads narrowing your decision
among the many people listed.
Profiles of people searching for friendship use words that
stick out like: 'looking for fun', 'friendship', 'no commitments',
'companion wanted', 'only looking for a good time', 'need
help in building my confidence', 'I want to roller blade in
the park all day', finding words that express fun and friendship
stating no commitments or relationship will help you sort
through the profiles you are reading.
Are you in search of that someone special to be more than
just friends are? Learn to read more into the written words.
Find descriptions such as 'looking for love', 'searching for
that someone special', 'more than friends', 'quiet and cozy',
'easy going and lovable', 'special times', 'treasured moments',
and words similar to 'lovable'.
So what about your profile, read over the words again. Does
the profile really express your thoughts about a relationship,
what type of relationship you are seeking and whom you are
expecting to meet using the personal classifieds? Deciding
what type of person you are searching for, what qualities
you desire, and how far you want the relationship to mature
are steps in realizing you are taking the right direction
for meeting that someone special through the classifieds.
Clarify your words, express your real thoughts and ideas about
who you are seeking clearly which will aid those that are
reading your profile connect easily with you.
Matching your personality and the relationship you are seeking
with the personal profile or description of another person
that is seeking similar relationships can be tough but using
your feelings of what you want from a relationship as a basis
when reading and sorting through the personals is a great
beginning.
About the Author:
Cheryl Lewis, freelance writer, married and mother of three.
Based in the Mountains of PA
Cheryl writes for DrDating - a web site for anyone looking
for love online. We have hundreds of articles, E-Books and
links to some great dating and love sites all over the world.
DrDating also offers reviews of some of the most popular dating
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